If you follow me on my Instagram, you may have seen my lengthy post about balancing healthy habits in conjunction with being happy mentally and physically. I shared a conversation one of my good friends and I had, we’re both pretty tall and have both been in a place where we have compared ourselves to girls who were petite and skinny. Let me say there is nothing wrong with being petite but those are unfair standards for someone my size. We both have spent way too much time staring at the scale (neither of us look like what we actually weigh), and setting expectations that could be considered unhealthy for an adult 5’8 woman. We were joking around and my friend even went so far to say, “I’m 5’9, if I weighed 100 pounds I would die”, and she’s right. It was nice to have someone who has dealt with similar trauma and has also overcome it and is seeing better days now.
I decided to share a few things that help me with my daily battle with body image, this is for the women out there who may not have a friend who understands what you are, or have been through. As, someone who has come out on the other side better than before let me share some tips that help me keep a positive mindset. Disclaimer: These are all easier said then done, and WILL take practice.
1. Look in the mirror everyday and ADMIRE your favorite features
Before you say, “there isn’t anything I like about myself” shut up, yes there is. You need to really try and be honest with yourself and pick a few things you adore about yourself. Ignore that voice in your head that’s telling you lies. In case you dont hear it enough, you’re BEAUTIFUL.
2. Always wear clothes that make you feel put together.
If you look good you feel good and thats the truth! This whole blog was started to share my journey through finding myself through my personal style. I only wear things that I love and that make me feel pretty. I’m not saying there can’t be days where you wear sweats, but I promise you’ll feel more confident in an outfit you KNOW looks good on you. I think we all know the feeling of wearing something so cute that several people compliment you. And if not, start today by putting a little more effort in your wardrobe. If you already follow me, you already know how to shop without breaking the bank!
3. Surround yourself with positive (healthy) vibes
There is just something about being around people who make you smile constantly that can change your whole day. They say laughter is the best medicine. If you are wasting your time with people who either trigger your trauma, are negative, or simply don’t make you happy, you do not have to spend time with them. The best thing I learned pretty early on in life is that it’s okay to grow out of people, and its OKAY to cut people out of your lives, even if they’re family.
4. Prayer/ Bible Study/ Daily Devotional
As many of you know I am a Christian and I really believe in the power of being in the word daily. I say that because reading the bible really puts me in a good mood but also self reflection mode. Taking a look at yourself is one of the tools to get where you want to be in life.
5. Exercise (Running gives me piece of mind)
The average person should exercise 30 mins a day doing moderate physical exercise daily. I exercise for forty-five minuets to an hour 5x a week. I mean that’s just me, but I love to pop on some headphones and really just turn off my brain for a little while. It doesn’t have to be running but exercise helps your mental state as well. This will automatically lean into putting better things inside your body as well. Trust me, this makes a difference on your mental state more than anything. Spending time outside is therapeutic to me. Do what works for you.
6. Only say nice things to yourself // (It will get better)
This one is probably the biggest one. This is something I started doing when I didn’t feel the cutest, or like the prettiest girl to be around (middle school puberty days). I would say mean things to myself about how I would be prettier if I didn’t have acne. Or, nobody will think I’m pretty with short hair, all kinds of things. I would replace everything mean thing I thought with two nice things about myself out loud. I actually got this from my mom, she would tell me everyday, randomly, how beautiful I was even when I didn’t see it myself. I know not everyone has that person in their life but it got me in the habit of saying that to myself.
No matter how far you’ve come, there will be days that you don’t feel the best and thats only normal. Nobody feels fabulous 100% of the time, but what I can say is that these are things that have helped me personally. I am not saying things will get better overnight, and I’m not saying once you’ve become a confident person that you will never slip back into those thoughts. I hope that this post helped even just one person.
Middle school is actually when I started to really fall in love with fashion because I was dressing in things that made me feel pretty….24 years later and I’m doing the same thing on a larger scale while doing what I love!